Monday, April 19, 2010

I know That!

Perhaps not the best way to start a new week, this thinking about guilt. I mean, who really wants to face it? But, two of my daily messages talked about it, and I couldn't help but be reminded of what I know, what I absolutely believe to be true....

Let's all take a moment and be reminded that guilt is a totally empty, wasteful emotion. Guilt is a waste of your precious energy! And, it's probably one of the heaviest weights you rest on your psychic shoulders.

But we do it all the time without even stopping to consider...WE do it to ourselves.

No one makes us feel guilty; we allow ourselves to be guilty. No one can make us shoulder the burden of it and wrap ourselves in the stifling air of it. We do it to ourselves.

Stupid, when you think on it. I know all this and yet...

I'm not sure if guilt is swirling around in my emotional stew of late, but I sense it's there, just like I can sense the taste of cilantro in food, "Oh yeah, there it is....I so don't like Cilantro. Why does everything have Cilantro in it lately?!"

I suspect that with trying to sell the house and wondering what we'll have left to start over, and not being able to find a job in all the time we've been here, and knowing how much pressure Michael has been under as we built this glorious house and lived our charmed life, how hard he's worked to make ends meet every month, and I always seem to fail to help him, oh the shame of it all!

Oh, yeah, see? There it is. It's in there. My Emotional Cilantro. Found you! Yuk.

Things are what they are. Life is built one decision at a time. At the end of it, does it make you a better, more aware, compassionate, conscious person? Do you know more about yourself on your quest to become Real? If so, stop wasting the remaining time carrying guilt around. Accept it as it is, all of it, even the parts you wish you could do over.

And realize you probably did the best you knew how to do at the time. Sometimes life is just life and there is no deeper meaning. We've all heard about random acts of kindness; if that can happen than random acts of crappy are also possible. Sometimes we just get dealt crappy cards. Sometimes it simply is what it is unfortunate as it may be.

Or, maybe you didn't do the very best and you know that. Sometimes we're just bone heads that do less than stellar things. Maybe you just slacked off when you should have tried harder. Yeah sometimes... Even so, you're still ahead of the game if the next choice you have to make is the best choice you can make. You're still ahead.

Remember, life is not played in innings or quarters; it's a sum total game. If you're breathing, you still have time. Don't waste it! Drop the guilt; feel the new lightness of Being. Pick your head up and square your shoulders. Today is a new day look it in the eye and smile. Make today your new favorite guiltless pleasure!

Namaste' Till Next Time,
Holly aka She Who is Momentarily Guiltless


Big Pissy said...

Ugh! Guilt!

It's a powerful thing.... :(

Sr. Ann Marie said...

Oh, yeah! It's amazing how easily I let that happen--and right now I'm in the midst of it. Thanks for reminding me that I'm doing it to myself--not someone else!

Eva Gallant said...

I sometimes feel guilty that I wasn't a better mother; but then I look at my grown childre, all successful, happily married parents, and say, hey, I did something right!

Gina said...

It has taken me years to rid myself of my guilt at 'not being good enough and an embarrasment to my parents because of it.' I am getting there but everynow and again it comes back to trip me up. Every now and again I have to remind myself of all the good things that I have achieved and to tell myself off for feeling guilty.

Love and hugs Gina xxx

clairedulalune said...

I enjoyed reading this post Holly, because sometimes that is real easy to forget. Guilt hangs on my shoulders like a anchor at times, but I am trying my best to heave it off! Only i can do it, right?
Thanks Holly and best of luck with everything! ((hugs))

Alison said...

Guilt is a hard one. It comes into that group of things that we know about, and know aren't doing us any good, but we carry on anyway. But Holly,I doubt that you have much to feel guilty about. So you haven't found a job? But by golly, I bet you have made Michael happy beyond what he ever imagined. And other people besides. You are a contributor to life, and a star! Things will unfold as they unfold and it will be fine. Trust me!

Alix said...

Laughed out loud at "emotional cilantro."

Hey, instead of fighting it, just enjoy the flavor. Wish guilt was as easy to conquer.

PS: Personally, I can't imagine anyone not loving cilantro (the herby variety) and yet so many don't. Me? I LOVE the stuff. Can we still be BFFs?

Joanna Jenkins said...

Hey Holly-- I heard everything you said, nodded my head in agreement while I was reading it and couldn't have said it better myself..... but.... It's hard sometimes. Thanks for the kick in the pants and right back at ya. Let's not be so hard on non-cilantro-liking selves.


Alison said...

What is cilantro?

Holly said...

Cilantro is a green herb that is used a great deal in Mexican cooking and also the Thai and other cultures enjoy it.

In some parts of the world it is also called, Chinese's one of those rare things that people seem to either adore or dislike.

I don't mind hints of it in foods, but a smidge too much is WAY too much for me.

Hope that helps! Love to you.

Alison said...

Thanks! I read that and thought - "Hmmm... That sounds like coriander to me." So I googled it and yes, it is. Same thing. (I could have googled it in the first place of course!) I'm in your camp Holly.I don't like it at all. Lots of love. xx

Jeanne Klaver said...

Guilt saps so much energy...but I feel it more often than not. Every time it creeps in, I remember: Guilt and Faith cannot occupy the same space so I choose FAITH!

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