I'm sure you've heard the sentiment, "A butterfly flaps its wings somewhere and the wind changes, and a warm front hits a cold front off the coast of western Africa and before you know it you've got a hurricane closing in." It's a way to explain Chaos Theory which basically goes to teach that for every action we take good or bad, it impacts something, somewhere down the line in ways that we can't predict or even imagine. For me, it's a good reason to sit still and do absolutely nothing for the rest of my life because, well, who needs that kind of power or lack of control?!
However, since I've decided to create this blog post, I'm sure that my decision will impact events in ways I didn't envision, so I may as well continue. You may want to get out your storm gear just in case.
At the very edge of my property runs what is left of the driveway that lead to the tiny farm house that was home to the people who owned the farm this development now rests on. It was tucked up in a canopy of over-growth and trees. You could tell it was once loved as day lilies still bloomed close to the foundation. By the time the developer bought this 50+ acres, it didn't much resemble a farm and the house was falling to ruin. We all hoped the small house could be saved, but it would have cost way too much to reclaim it.
All that is left of the original owners is the long driveway and some of the huge pines edging it. It's taken me awhile to get used to the notion that I have a driveway as the last few feet of my property, but it has come in handy when we need to get mulch or other things to the backyard. A truck fits down it quite well.
Over time, the concrete has broken up and fallen apart further along the drive, but up at our end the first four home owners still have concrete. It's become wild and overgrown as the years have gone on. While we have our grass cut as part of our monthly dues, wild areas are left to the homeowners to manage as part of their property. We aren't a condo association with all the exterior being common ground. We each own our quarter-acre property as well as the house that sits on it.
Our home owners association, envisioned ours to be a 'no fence' community, at least for the patio homes. This means that we all have the freedom to do what we wish when it comes to gardening. We liked the idea that one would see a continuous vista of green open space with the Laurel Highlands as the back drop. It's one of the best views I've ever been blessed with as a home owner.
It's actually worked out very nicely. We all collaborate with each other about plants and flower beds and other things we wish to do so that it's become quite a close knit group. We all benefit from the additions and plants. It's park-like. We've given an open invitation for our neighbors to feel free to use our fire pit anytime they'd like. And there's a great deal of chatting back and forth when we're out. Nice. Very!
The other day My Lion said, "I'm going to get a quote to have the landscaper clean out the back. I want to be able to get a vehicle down there again. And, we have to keep it cleaned out so that the gas utility people can get to the gas line for service. Can you talk with the neighbors to see if they want to participate?"
To be honest, over the ten years we've lived here, it had become a real mess. My neighbor Theresa and I especially dumped our yard waste down there. I mean, what are you going to do with all the cut back? The trash company won't take it to the landfill and we don't have a recycling spot that will accept it so it seemed an easy solution.
It turned out it wasn't our best idea. Why? Because as it got more and more filled with yard debris and grass clippings, it's become a bridge from the farm directly behind us to our yards for ground hogs and snakes and you name it. And, as it became more overgrown, we've had lots of incidences of neighborhood kids using it for whatever nefarious deeds young people are want to do. The last straw was finding what turned out to be my neighbor's stuff strewn about and picked over after her car was broken into and well, enough was enough.
I talked with my neighbors on either side. Theresa immediately said she agreed and would contribute. My neighbors on the other side said they'd have to think about it. The neighbor on the other side of them said, "No, I'll have my guy take care of it like he does twice a year. Thanks."
Last Friday, the landscaper came with a small bobcat and they got to work to cut back the trees and brush and weed-wacked till it was down to the low point. The bobcat was used to shorten how many hours he'd have to charge to have them remove the debris by hand. It was either pay for the equipment rental or pay them per hour for clean-up. We went with the equipment option which was actually a bit cheaper and I am certain they all breathed a sigh of relief when we did.
In about four hours time they had it returned to the way it looked when we moved in- in fact better! Perfectly cleaned out and down to the original cement drive. Now we have a natural fire break and the critters will possibly think twice before sauntering over to our yards. I hope. Theresa was pleased with the job. We were completely pleased with the job. Michael told the three neighbors what the job cost and asked them to contribute what they feel it is worth to them. In case you're curious, the job cost $1500. He says, "Regardless if they want to contribute, the job had to be done so I did it."
Now, $1500 is a pretty big price tag and we're totally hoping that the neighbors will kick in, but if they don't we still feel we what was best for our property and for the good of the community. So, I bet you're wondering why I started out this post with the whole Chaos Theory bit, aren't you? I'll get to that now.
While the job was being done my neighbor, with whom we've been very friendly and who declined to be part of the job, rings the door bell. I step out, big smile on my face because I'm always glad to see him and get totally bushwacked. Totally. He starts out by saying he's very upset and when I ask why he continues, "I thought we were friends! And yet, without telling me that you're having equipment brought in and severely changing the grade of that back property, you just go and do it. I've called my attorney and if you cause a ponding, standing water issue for me, well, you're going to have to deal with my attorney."
Shocked, I answered, "I did call you and tell you we were going to have it cleaned out. I offered you to be part of it if you wanted to have the brush and grass hauled away. I know you have it weed-wacked twice a year but if you wanted the build-up removed, you could have done it!"
He went on to say we'd severely changed the grade and since he sits at the lowest point on the run, he'll have major issues. I tried to tell him that we couldn't change the grade because the cement is already there. He refused to believe me saying that cement only remained at the very top of the drive. I countered that he was incorrect. Asked if he wanted to go back and look and he refused.
His parting words to me were, "I'm just really disappointed. I thought we were friends and friends don't cause problems for friends." When he drove away I simply stood there. Totally caught off-guard.
He's not spoken with us since. My Lion says, "Once someone threatens me with their attorney, all conversation on my end stops. I won't get involved with a treat. We have the pictures and a video that the landscapers shot that shows he already has a problem with standing water back there. That's how they determined how far to go with the clean up."
Sigh. SIGH. MAJOR SIGH! Yes, I suppose this is one of those times when No Good Deed Goes Unpunished. But, I have to say I am totally perplexed. How can our decision to do what's right for our home and the homes immediately surrounding us, willing to absorb the total cost, be anything but a good thing?
How can a butterfly flapping its wings in my yard cause a total shite-storm Tsunami for our neighbor two houses away?!? Can anyone explain that to me? It seems Chaos Theory applies to people as well as our Universe, I suppose.
And, it turns out that Chaos Theory is correct; I never saw that one coming...
Namaste' Till Next Time,
Holly aka The Tsunami Starter
However, since I've decided to create this blog post, I'm sure that my decision will impact events in ways I didn't envision, so I may as well continue. You may want to get out your storm gear just in case.
At the very edge of my property runs what is left of the driveway that lead to the tiny farm house that was home to the people who owned the farm this development now rests on. It was tucked up in a canopy of over-growth and trees. You could tell it was once loved as day lilies still bloomed close to the foundation. By the time the developer bought this 50+ acres, it didn't much resemble a farm and the house was falling to ruin. We all hoped the small house could be saved, but it would have cost way too much to reclaim it.
All that is left of the original owners is the long driveway and some of the huge pines edging it. It's taken me awhile to get used to the notion that I have a driveway as the last few feet of my property, but it has come in handy when we need to get mulch or other things to the backyard. A truck fits down it quite well.
Over time, the concrete has broken up and fallen apart further along the drive, but up at our end the first four home owners still have concrete. It's become wild and overgrown as the years have gone on. While we have our grass cut as part of our monthly dues, wild areas are left to the homeowners to manage as part of their property. We aren't a condo association with all the exterior being common ground. We each own our quarter-acre property as well as the house that sits on it.
Our home owners association, envisioned ours to be a 'no fence' community, at least for the patio homes. This means that we all have the freedom to do what we wish when it comes to gardening. We liked the idea that one would see a continuous vista of green open space with the Laurel Highlands as the back drop. It's one of the best views I've ever been blessed with as a home owner.
It's actually worked out very nicely. We all collaborate with each other about plants and flower beds and other things we wish to do so that it's become quite a close knit group. We all benefit from the additions and plants. It's park-like. We've given an open invitation for our neighbors to feel free to use our fire pit anytime they'd like. And there's a great deal of chatting back and forth when we're out. Nice. Very!
The other day My Lion said, "I'm going to get a quote to have the landscaper clean out the back. I want to be able to get a vehicle down there again. And, we have to keep it cleaned out so that the gas utility people can get to the gas line for service. Can you talk with the neighbors to see if they want to participate?"
To be honest, over the ten years we've lived here, it had become a real mess. My neighbor Theresa and I especially dumped our yard waste down there. I mean, what are you going to do with all the cut back? The trash company won't take it to the landfill and we don't have a recycling spot that will accept it so it seemed an easy solution.
It turned out it wasn't our best idea. Why? Because as it got more and more filled with yard debris and grass clippings, it's become a bridge from the farm directly behind us to our yards for ground hogs and snakes and you name it. And, as it became more overgrown, we've had lots of incidences of neighborhood kids using it for whatever nefarious deeds young people are want to do. The last straw was finding what turned out to be my neighbor's stuff strewn about and picked over after her car was broken into and well, enough was enough.
I talked with my neighbors on either side. Theresa immediately said she agreed and would contribute. My neighbors on the other side said they'd have to think about it. The neighbor on the other side of them said, "No, I'll have my guy take care of it like he does twice a year. Thanks."
Last Friday, the landscaper came with a small bobcat and they got to work to cut back the trees and brush and weed-wacked till it was down to the low point. The bobcat was used to shorten how many hours he'd have to charge to have them remove the debris by hand. It was either pay for the equipment rental or pay them per hour for clean-up. We went with the equipment option which was actually a bit cheaper and I am certain they all breathed a sigh of relief when we did.
In about four hours time they had it returned to the way it looked when we moved in- in fact better! Perfectly cleaned out and down to the original cement drive. Now we have a natural fire break and the critters will possibly think twice before sauntering over to our yards. I hope. Theresa was pleased with the job. We were completely pleased with the job. Michael told the three neighbors what the job cost and asked them to contribute what they feel it is worth to them. In case you're curious, the job cost $1500. He says, "Regardless if they want to contribute, the job had to be done so I did it."
Now, $1500 is a pretty big price tag and we're totally hoping that the neighbors will kick in, but if they don't we still feel we what was best for our property and for the good of the community. So, I bet you're wondering why I started out this post with the whole Chaos Theory bit, aren't you? I'll get to that now.
While the job was being done my neighbor, with whom we've been very friendly and who declined to be part of the job, rings the door bell. I step out, big smile on my face because I'm always glad to see him and get totally bushwacked. Totally. He starts out by saying he's very upset and when I ask why he continues, "I thought we were friends! And yet, without telling me that you're having equipment brought in and severely changing the grade of that back property, you just go and do it. I've called my attorney and if you cause a ponding, standing water issue for me, well, you're going to have to deal with my attorney."
Shocked, I answered, "I did call you and tell you we were going to have it cleaned out. I offered you to be part of it if you wanted to have the brush and grass hauled away. I know you have it weed-wacked twice a year but if you wanted the build-up removed, you could have done it!"
He went on to say we'd severely changed the grade and since he sits at the lowest point on the run, he'll have major issues. I tried to tell him that we couldn't change the grade because the cement is already there. He refused to believe me saying that cement only remained at the very top of the drive. I countered that he was incorrect. Asked if he wanted to go back and look and he refused.
His parting words to me were, "I'm just really disappointed. I thought we were friends and friends don't cause problems for friends." When he drove away I simply stood there. Totally caught off-guard.
He's not spoken with us since. My Lion says, "Once someone threatens me with their attorney, all conversation on my end stops. I won't get involved with a treat. We have the pictures and a video that the landscapers shot that shows he already has a problem with standing water back there. That's how they determined how far to go with the clean up."
Sigh. SIGH. MAJOR SIGH! Yes, I suppose this is one of those times when No Good Deed Goes Unpunished. But, I have to say I am totally perplexed. How can our decision to do what's right for our home and the homes immediately surrounding us, willing to absorb the total cost, be anything but a good thing?
How can a butterfly flapping its wings in my yard cause a total shite-storm Tsunami for our neighbor two houses away?!? Can anyone explain that to me? It seems Chaos Theory applies to people as well as our Universe, I suppose.
And, it turns out that Chaos Theory is correct; I never saw that one coming...
Namaste' Till Next Time,
Holly aka The Tsunami Starter
2 comments:
Holly
My house has 287 feet of fence. How do I know this? because I replaced it this year at a cost of OVER 8000. I replaced it because the neighbor's retaining wall knocked it down and after 4 years of waiting for them to fix it I could not put it off any longer. My fence creates the back fence for 5 homes. I notified them all in writing that I was replacing the fence that they have used as their own for the last 20 years. I asked if they could contribute to the cost. I received two contributions totally 216 dollars. Neither contribution came from the original source of the problem, the neighbor with the collapsed retaining wall. I even paid extra to have a new retaining wall put in to protect his false raised bamboo garden. I have already had to have the fence repaired after one neighbor's dogs pushed the nails out of place on 4 boards and entered my back yard. and I have one neighbor who the only thing they said to me after it was done was "you could have asked us what color we wanted so it would match the rest of our back yard"
I yiyi-- Sounds like some of my neighbors! So sorry for the hassle and expense. Some people are just impossible to please and like to get themselves all wound up. I sure hope you never hear from this guy again and his turn out to be a bunch of hot air.
Your have a beautiful piece of property and the view is stunning, Holly. I hope you are enjoying it and your summer is lovely.
I've been on the run all summer and am heading back to Ohio soon to help family for ten days-- looking forward to being there and catching up with everyone. I haven't been home in way too long.
Take good care Snarky Sister. I miss you.
xoxo
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