tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post2213855557800260785..comments2024-01-17T17:12:02.636-05:00Comments on Your Mother Knows But Won't Tell You...: Bully Or Teacher?Hollyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10972581158834240144noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-65145326455546191302009-05-08T22:46:00.000-04:002009-05-08T22:46:00.000-04:00Hi again...
Holly if time allows I have a link pos...Hi again...<br />Holly if time allows I have a link posted under the title "a delightful read"... it's a story about Gorillas in the wild that I feel you would enjoy.<br />It will make your heart sing.<br /><br />best wishes<br />Ribbonxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12600470311819511684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-15318998975788996652009-05-08T20:56:00.000-04:002009-05-08T20:56:00.000-04:00When I was 13 or so, a gang of kids chased me and ...When I was 13 or so, a gang of kids chased me and slapped me around. I was scared all summer, but they never came back. Our neighborhood was a lot bigger (suburban-rural).<br />Much worse was the mind-fuck that came later. 25 years after the fact, I've sworn that nobody would ever curse in my face and scream at me, no matter what their position. Hasn't been tested yet, but I feel confident.<Arcta Firebringerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07485859868215749207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-75607131271960541632009-05-08T19:12:00.000-04:002009-05-08T19:12:00.000-04:00Thanks for sharing...I had a bully once. In HS, ve...Thanks for sharing...I had a bully once. In HS, very much like your Robin, I had no interaction with this girl before I was in her crosshairs. She stalked me in between classes, shoved me, cursed at me, all that good stuff. One day she literally tried shoving me into a locker. As I was trying to avoid it, two seniors decended upon the situation, one grabbed her arm, and one mine. The one that Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12487191264574365675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-62368416009079714552009-05-08T19:03:00.000-04:002009-05-08T19:03:00.000-04:00As spirits in the quest to become real, none of us...As spirits in the quest to become real, none of us is ever past the age of ugliness, my Beth. That's the beauty of it all. We always have the opportunity to grow.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972581158834240144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-84582433427587615342009-05-08T19:00:00.000-04:002009-05-08T19:00:00.000-04:00Holly Holly Holly....you really are a Queen....
a...Holly Holly Holly....you really are a Queen....<br /><br />and you're right, this is a huge subject right now and makes me so glad that my kids are out of "that age of ugliness"bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11094533582512917616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-37928247656576308752009-05-08T18:44:00.000-04:002009-05-08T18:44:00.000-04:00Mel, so true to you as well...if everyone was empo...Mel, so true to you as well...if everyone was empowered as children, then maybe these "bullies" wouldn't feel the need to attempt to take what they "need." My mom, a die hard Irish Catholic, actually told me when entering kindergarten that if anyone hits me, to hit them back. That if the nuns ever pulled out that paddle (because yes, they had one in the principles office) that I was to rip it outOpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04906935814174554383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-83462058279585055152009-05-08T17:54:00.000-04:002009-05-08T17:54:00.000-04:00~~And, I have to ask, then, how can you condone vi...~~And, I have to ask, then, how can you condone violence done against yourself? If a person wishes to harm you for the only reason in that they think they can, isn't that condoning violence?~~~<br /><br />*sigh* And this is why you're my Loving Crone....so true, Dear One, so true....ya got me.<br /><br />I find the older I get, the flinchier I get. I was watching a young boy being bullied on melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00336474101204142611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-36377618511018836052009-05-08T17:11:00.000-04:002009-05-08T17:11:00.000-04:00Mel,
Thanks so much for your insight and questions...Mel,<br />Thanks so much for your insight and questions...all of us need to consider them.<br /><br />I understand about the conflicting messages...I went to Catholic School where told that we should act like Christ and turn the other cheek.<br /><br />I agree the act like Christ part, but it's the Christ that justly and rightly turned over the tables in the temple and scattered the money Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972581158834240144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-9209946432020269722009-05-08T17:10:00.000-04:002009-05-08T17:10:00.000-04:00Wow, Holly, don't mess with you! Hopefully Robin ...Wow, Holly, don't mess with you! Hopefully Robin learned a lesson from all that. I love the way your dad handled it, too. At some point you have to just make sure kids are equipped to deal with the world and then let them do it on their own.<br /><br />I agree entirely with your two-part philosophy. I've known a lot of cowards who blame the whole world for hating them and are constantly Mikehttp://purecommonsense.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-34657883565236633802009-05-08T17:02:00.000-04:002009-05-08T17:02:00.000-04:00Wow...loaded topic. I truly loved your bully story...Wow...loaded topic. I truly loved your bully story though....and yes, your father is a very wise man.<br /><br />I'm not sure how well I'd do watching someone terrorize my child though....not very well, I imagine. *sigh*<br /><br />On empowering children - if I may play the devil's advocate for a moment...I don't know how effective telling these children to stand up for themselves will be when melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00336474101204142611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-36490969929497356402009-05-08T16:50:00.000-04:002009-05-08T16:50:00.000-04:00I did heard a rumor that you were starting an unde...I did heard a rumor that you were starting an under age fight club in your basement Holly. Now I get it ;)<br /><br />In all seriousness, what happened to the idea of letting children be children? Parents coddle children to the extent that nearly none are self sufficient any longer - as is evidenced by the throngs of thirty year old "kids" moving back in with Mom and Dad. <br /><br />Perhaps Life With Dogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13466234787177577152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-283375839495201452009-05-08T13:45:00.000-04:002009-05-08T13:45:00.000-04:00Well, where to start, so much I can say on this to...Well, where to start, so much I can say on this topic. Growing up looking like Opie, I met quite a few people who thought they could bully me. However, also growing up with 4 older brothers did a few things as well. I was a little bit tougher than most kids my age, I had to learn to take a punch, and I could. Also, my brothers were a lot bigger than me, so when someone that had 20/30 lbs on me Opiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04906935814174554383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-10214487101368867262009-05-08T13:10:00.000-04:002009-05-08T13:10:00.000-04:00Oh Holly, good for you Qweenie. We all at times ha...Oh Holly, good for you Qweenie. We all at times have to make a stand. Your Dad sounds like a wonderful man. My best friend is always saying.."YOU TREAT PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU!" it has just been reinforced to me! Changing the subject did you get my email. I can recieve them but not send...so I am waiting for your pic. Working on getting that fixed....Beth wanted it to....Not sure what is wrong Cindy https://www.blogger.com/profile/03552572705763406197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-57244324992885224772009-05-08T11:57:00.000-04:002009-05-08T11:57:00.000-04:00I was completely smitten with/by this tale ... don...I was completely smitten with/by this tale ... don't we all have a bully story? Mine was an assmunch named Brent Lederer who terrorized my 5th & 6th grade years ... in 7th grade, though, he made the mistake of spitting on me (well, in my direction anyway) which is the grossest thing in MY world, men spitting ... I chased that stocky piece o'shite down and proceeded to pound him, bothTonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230544418684268354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-33747081611456236022009-05-08T11:46:00.000-04:002009-05-08T11:46:00.000-04:00Eileen,
I completely understand. I am a warrior w...Eileen,<br />I completely understand. I am a warrior who sees it her mission to protect all that I love and care about. However, I will never be able to defend a person who does not know how to defend themselves. So, teaching young ones to hold their own in the world is the most important call to action.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10972581158834240144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-62232390971471787932009-05-08T11:26:00.000-04:002009-05-08T11:26:00.000-04:00Holly ... thanks for sharing your own life experie...Holly ... thanks for sharing your own life experience on this subject and in so many ways I think what your Dad said is true. And then I have to say as a mother, it's darn hard to hold back from going after the person or persons that hurt one of your own. I'm just saying, it's a lot harder than it might seem. One thing I have always wondered about ... it seems to me that the parents of the "Eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15240639319040464225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-79259998868631924752009-05-08T10:20:00.000-04:002009-05-08T10:20:00.000-04:00Wow! What a story. Your writing is powerful and ...Wow! What a story. Your writing is powerful and clear and beautiful. <br /><br />I never thought I would agree with the conclusions you reach in this piece - but you make a very strong argument. I have to think about it. And it's quite a compliment to your writing that you are sending me off to contemplate a new point of view.<br /><br />Also, I LOVE that your dad called you "Queenie" it soLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08198572015888392613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-71854912755580643762009-05-08T10:19:00.000-04:002009-05-08T10:19:00.000-04:00What a very wise father you had, Holly...easy to s...What a very wise father you had, Holly...easy to see his influence in the way you view and understand the world.jkchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14634462759472126093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-45879362940162112592009-05-08T10:14:00.000-04:002009-05-08T10:14:00.000-04:00Oh Holly...
Thank you for writing this! As you've...Oh Holly...<br /><br />Thank you for writing this! As you've gathered from my blog, I'm sure, there are a couple of playground bullies that present themselves in my life from time to time. I'm sooo over it. I have been for sooo long. I just refuse to engage them. At all. It may be rude, but I really no longer care. That amount of psychosis and negativity can do no good. It sucks you in. And, knowCamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07972079738846934736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-348829223107301446.post-52556163122151240672009-05-08T10:03:00.000-04:002009-05-08T10:03:00.000-04:00Bravo Holly!
x RibbonBravo Holly!<br /><br />x Ribbonxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12600470311819511684noreply@blogger.com